Self-Esteem 5-Day Challenge: Day 5

Day 5: Affirming Others

Welcome to Day 5 of the Self-Esteem Challenge. Wow, you made it! Congratulations! Aren’t you excited?

Today we’re going to be talking about the surprising power of affirming others.


Write down the three people who surround you with the most positive energy.

Now, under each person, write down THREE things that you really appreciate about them. This can be anything, from their sense of humour, to their work ethic or their love for nature. It doesn’t need to be anything profound, just meaningful.

After you’ve written down three items for each person, contact them via phone, email, or text and tell them how much you appreciate them. Affirm their strengths and make no comments about their weaknesses.

Your goal is simply to affirm them and make them feel good about themselves.

What you’ll discover as you do this is that it creates a true cycle of affirmation, with you affirming others and others affirming you.

As this happens, you’ll see your self-esteem leap skyward.

Remember to affirm three people today. Record each step of the process in your journal, including how they reacted to your contact.


Few people realise this, but affirming others is a powerful way to boost your own self-esteem:

  • It forces you to think through the things you appreciate about others, which in turn makes you more attentive to your own strengths.
  • Affirming others also strengthens your positive relationships, so you can continue to be surrounded by positive people.
  • Affirming others often leads to them affirming you, which creates a circle of positive energy.
  • When you “pay things forward”, life has an uncanny way of paying you back in kind.

Mike Gayle said: “No matter how sure you are of someone’s love, it’s always nice to hear it.”

By taking the time to affirm others, you build both their self-esteem and yours. It’s a total win-win.

Coming next

Tune in tomorrow for the wrap-up and next steps…….